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 is no greater joy than hanging out with your children=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-=
spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EOn a recent Saturday we had to update my ten y=
ear old daughter=92s flute at Sax and Woodwind in Sydney=2E<SPAN style=3D'ms=
o-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EWhat a wonderful opportunity to take my daug=
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Picking up the new flute was exciting enough and then we went to the George =
St cinema complex to catch a movie=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0=
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=A0 </SPAN=3EThe next challenge was where to take my =91date=92 for lunch=2E=
<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EAnywhere but McDonalds! Gue=
ss who ended up forking out for McDonalds=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes=
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=3EA pleasant stroll down George St with my little princess was made even be=
tter by my singing a nonsensical ditty=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=
=A0 </SPAN=3E=93Aw dad, do you have to sing in public=3F<SPAN style=3D'mso-s=
pacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EStop right away or I won=92t walk with you=2E=94=
<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EOf course when dad started =
doing a nonsensical dance, swinging around lampposts in the middle of Sydney=
, the response was even more predictable=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=
=3E=A0 </SPAN=3E=93Stop right away or I=92m going home now=2E=94<SPAN style=3D=
'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EHaving a bossy, red-haired daughter certa=
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Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EWe had a wonderful day together in =
the big smoke=2E And what did I learn=3F<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=
=A0 </SPAN=3EI learnt that blondes, and also redheads really are quite cleve=
r=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI learnt that girl powe=
r will triumph in the end=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0<IMG hspa=
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SPAN=3EI learnt that one of the best things I could possibly do was to take =
my ten year old daughter out for a date=2E <SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=
=3E=A0</SPAN=3EYou see, girls will measure the boys they go out with against=
 their dad=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EIf their dad=92=
s a creep, they will go out with creeps=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=
=A0 </SPAN=3EIf their dad treats them positively, honours and respects them,=
 then they will expect the same of any prospective husband=2E<SPAN style=3D'=
mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EIf you don=92t believe me, read =92Women a=
nd their Fathers; The Sexual and Romantic Impact of the First Man in your Li=
fe=92 (by V=2E Secunda, New York, Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishing)=2E Think=
 of a date with your daughter as a long term investment in your daughter=92s=
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erdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EYou guessed it; it=92s time to make =
some time=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThat=92s right,=
 carve it out=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EBook it in =
now=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EDo something special =
with your children=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThey a=
re never too young to appreciate your taking them out for a special treat=2E=
<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI can still remember that t=
ime in the mid sixties when my dad took my brother and I to see =91Adventure=
s of Sinbad the Sailor=92 in downtown Sydney=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: =
yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThe movie will soon be forgotten, but time spent with yo=
ur children will become a part of you and your children=92s heritage for gen=
erations to come=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D=
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FAMILY: Verdana'=3EWarwick Marsh=A0=A0has been married=A0to Alison for=A027 =
years=2E He is the father of five children, four boys and one girl, ranging =
in age from 22 years to=A010 years=2E=A0 Warwick is a musician, songwriter, =
producer and public speaker who likes to think he can still laugh at himself=
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as effective, and our timing as always, ineffective=2E Yes ladies and gentle=
men, and parents to be, toilet training can test even the most patient and r=
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ming to grips with the actual successfulness of training pants=2E My son has=
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t ugly, ugly concept they call patience=2E Who needs it right=3F Well, when =
toilet training, patience is certainly a pre-requisite=2E My wife has little=
 trouble dealing with this; myself, however=85haven=92t got time to learn pa=
tience! But, I am dealing with this, and if my two-year old is to learn that=
 wet pants really aren=92t that enjoyable, he needs our loving patience and =
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ple=2E I am a visionary=2E I can see that in the very near future (next week=
 I hope) that my son will master the art of toilet training=2E I can see in =
the very near future that my level of patience in all areas will have benefi=
ted from my role in this whole exercise=2E And I understand that as a family=
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t mate=2E Daddy=92s sorry if he loses his patience=2E We can always get the =
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Till Next Time, <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoBlockText style=3D=
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roochydoore=2E He is married with three children aged two,=A0ten and=A0thirt=
een years=2E Paul is an active surfer who lives on the Sunshine Coast=A0in Q=
ueensland=2E He is a family man who hasn't lost his sense of humour=2E</P=3E=
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v=3E <P class=3DMsoNormal=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3E<STRONG=3ELesson=
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Verdana size=3D2=3EAbout 30 years ago my grandparents pulled out a huge box =
of family photos, which spanned several generations=2E After looking through=
 the photos, my grandparents asked me to keep the box=2E I was uncomfortable=
 about accepting the pictures because I didn=92t want to think about the day=
 that my grandpa and grandma would not be in my life=2E So, I said there was=
 plenty of time left to get the photographs=2E When my grandmother died a ye=
ar later, my grandfather offered me the photos a second time=2E<IMG hspace=3D=
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em=2E In time, I married, started my own family and moved across country=2E =
I stayed in touch with my grandfather, to be sure, but the photographs were =
never a part of our conversations=2E Retrospectively, I suppose he thought I=
 just didn=92t want them=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal=3E<FONT face=
=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EThen that awful, but inevitable call came, informing m=
e that my grandpa had died=2E In my grief, the photos did cross my mind, but=
 there were two uncles present who were going to take care of things, so I f=
igured there was plenty of time to get the photos=2E Unexpectedly, though, o=
ne uncle died, and another divorced and I lost track of him=2E </FONT=3E</P=3E=
<P class=3DMsoNormal=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EAfter a year of searc=
hing diligently for my missing uncle, I finally tracked him down=2E It turns=
 out that he left the box of photographs with his former wife=2E So I called=
 her=2E She was extremely pleasant, but the divorce had not gone well and, u=
pon finding the box of photographs, she had thrown them away=2E I=92ve since=
 received many other photos, but they do not compare to the priceless family=
 legacy that I let slip through my fingers, not once, but twice=2E </FONT=3E=
</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3ELesson Learned: If presented with=
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TATE=3E=2E Besides genealogy,=A0her extra vocational passions include woodwo=
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clear expectations and structure=2E Without structure and appropriate expect=
ations, a child will tend to be less confident, less empathetic and struggle=
 with establishing a sense of morality=2E Shaw=92s prescription for fathers,=
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idemic</I=3E, is simply to avoid the extremes in rearing children: being neg=
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a=3EIf we are neglectful and defer our fathering responsibilities, particula=
rly in initiating a sense of morality, we will raise a generation of kids wh=
o are =93meaner, nastier, more venomous and vengeful=2E=94 Similarly, if we =
overindulge and accommodate every whim our children have -- at the expense o=
f teaching them self-control and responsibility -- we will raise the next ge=
neration to imitate what they have seen in =93a morally relativistic culture=
 in which a quest for power and money held sway over considerations of goodn=
ess, honor, fiduciary responsibility, and fundamental caring for the welfare=
 of others=2E=94 Shaw uses the Enron fiasco as an example for what can happe=
n when children are brought up to value =93the development of cognitive powe=
r and cunning but not real emotional intelligence, not compassion, not empat=
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Verdana=3EI want to highlight six of Shaw=92s action points for parents who =
want to train their children to be responsible and compassionate in the real=
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AMILY: Verdana'=3EPARENTS behind in their payments have run up a child suppo=
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icholson lambasted the Prime Minister's proposal for shared parenting=A0on T=
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=2E0pt'=3EAs a mother I appreciate and value immensely the relationship betw=
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'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana=
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rliament=2Ensw=2Egov=2Eau'=3ERobyn=2EParker@parliament=2Ensw=2Egov=2Eau</A=3E=
<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm =
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'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size=
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'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana=
; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EDear Fatherhood Foundation<o:p=3E</o:p=3E<=
/SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN sty=
le=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3E=
=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0=
cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi-fon=
t-size: 12=2E0pt'=3E=85I was interested to read the 12 point plan and would =
encourage the debate to consider the role of fathers in this fast changing w=
orld=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0=
cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi=
-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNorma=
l style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMIL=
Y: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EI certainly support your stateme=
nt that applauds fathers who are caring for children and urges them to be =91=
the best dads in the world=92 for the sake of their children=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E=
</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN st=
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=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0=
cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi-fon=
t-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EInitiatives which would assist families and have the bes=
t interests of children at heart are to be supported and if your plan is an =
attempt in this direction I wish you well=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes=
'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ERecent reports of fathers involved in domestic violence are=
 particularly disturbing and efforts need to be taken to ensure that support=
 and advocacy services are made available so that such incidents are reduced=
 and hopefully eliminated=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNorm=
al style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMI=
LY: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E=
<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FONT-SIZ=
E: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EI trust that =
your endeavours will have a positive effect on Australian fathers and famili=
es=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm=
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 Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EPeter Dale<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E=
</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN style=3D'FO=
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